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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When fear or hurt makes you want to hide today, reach for your spouse instead.
The instinct is to withdraw. Do the opposite: move toward, take a hand, let them in.
When somebody manages a partner through anger, it is worth asking what the control is guarding. Very often the answer is a fear of being left.
Telling someone that nobody else would have them is that fear turned into a weapon, and it usually arrives when the person feels furthest away.…
In a raw, vulnerable moment, ask your partner directly for comfort and reassurance instead of hiding the need.
When you are hurting, the brave move is to say plainly what you need, hold me, tell me we are okay, rather than testing your partner or going silent.…
Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.
Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.
A new response cannot be laid on top of a cycle that is still turning. Break the circle first, even clumsily, and the room for something else appears.
Interrupting looks small and slightly silly: standing up, walking to another room, going quiet mid sentence, putting the phone face down.…
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