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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Catch yourself keeping score today, and set the ledger down.
I did this, so they owe that. Love kept as accounting slowly turns cold. Drop the tally.
Raise the hard thing with how you feel and what you need, not with what they did wrong.
I felt alone last night and would love an evening together, not you always disappear.
Voice the specific complaint, not a verdict on their character.
This dish is still here, not you never help. One moment can be fixed; a character cannot.
On the old recurring issue, raise it once this week more gently than you ever have.
Most problems between two people never fully resolve. The task is to soften how you carry them.
Reframe one difference with your spouse as a dream to understand, not a flaw to fix.
Behind their stubborn stance is usually something they value. Ask what it protects.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Before you walk away, say when you are coming back.
Before you walk away from an argument today, name a time. "I need twenty minutes. I'll come find you at eight." Then go, and be back at eight. The…