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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Share the hurt instead of the accusation in your next hard conversation.
That hurt me is easier to hear than that was cruel. The wound, not the charge.
Tell your spouse what you felt, not what they did, in your next complaint.
I felt alone, not you ignored me. The feeling is yours to own and easy to hear.
Raise the hard thing with how you feel and what you need, not with what they did wrong.
I felt alone last night and would love an evening together, not you always disappear.
In the next argument, make one repair attempt, a softer word, a small step back.
Can we start over. I hear you. Let me try again. A hand held out mid-fight.
Name the one thing you cannot give up here, and the parts you can flex. Then ask theirs.
Most deadlocks are a small core need wrapped in a lot that is negotiable. Protect the core, trade the edges.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Voice the specific complaint, not a verdict on their character.
This dish is still here, not you never help. One moment can be fixed; a character cannot.