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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Try putting a qualifier on the front of your strongest claims. In some ways this is true. In some ways it is not. In some ways I cannot tell from here.
Jain thinkers built a whole grammar out of that, seven careful ways of stating a thing, precisely so assertion stayed honest. Used well, a qualifier…
Have three or four openers ready before you need them. For what it is worth. Can I run something by you. You might not like this, so give me the benefit of the doubt.
When you are stirred up you will not compose diplomatic language on the spot, so the phrases have to be picked in advance and worn in. Say them aloud…
ADHD rarely turns up on its own. If anxiety or low mood is in the room as well, it needs treating in its own right, and that includes when it is the other partner who is struggling.
This is the part that gets missed in couples. One person becomes the identified patient and everybody works on them, while the other one's untreated…
Counter contempt by building a steady culture of appreciation: express thanks, fondness, and respect often.
Contempt grows where appreciation is missing. Regular, sincere praise is the long-term antidote.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Do not just think a kind thought about your partner. Say it out loud, naming the trait and a real moment.
I love how gentle you were with the kids today. Spoken admiration builds a loving base; unspoken does not.