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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When you feel the urge to defend yourself, take a small piece of responsibility instead.
You are right, I am sorry I was late; I will watch the time. A small yes lowers the heat fast.
Raise the issue as a complaint about a behavior, not an attack on their character. Skip you always and you never.
I was scared when you did not call is a complaint. You are so selfish is an attack. Aim for the first.
Open a hard topic with I feel, about what, I need. Ask for what you want, do not expect mind-reading.
I feel upset that the dishes are left out. I would appreciate the kitchen cleaned at night. Clear and kind.
Speak in I-statements about a specific situation. Drop the you-statements, the blame, and the always and never.
I felt worried when the call did not come lands. You are so thoughtless attacks. Stay with I and the specific.
If you are the critical one, risk the soft feeling under the anger and ask, gently, for what you need instead of attacking.
Criticism is often a protest from someone who feels alone and unmet. Softening, letting your partner see the hurt beneath the sharpness and asking…
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