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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
In the next argument, make one repair attempt, a softer word, a small step back.
Can we start over. I hear you. Let me try again. A hand held out mid-fight.
Name the one thing you cannot give up here, and the parts you can flex. Then ask theirs.
Most deadlocks are a small core need wrapped in a lot that is negotiable. Protect the core, trade the edges.
Voice the specific complaint, not a verdict on their character.
This dish is still here, not you never help. One moment can be fixed; a character cannot.
If you go silent under stress, say so instead of vanishing: I need a pause, I will be back.
Stonewalling reads as contempt from the other side. A word turns a wall into a window.
On the old recurring issue, raise it once this week more gently than you ever have.
Most problems between two people never fully resolve. The task is to soften how you carry them.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Reframe one difference with your spouse as a dream to understand, not a flaw to fix.
Behind their stubborn stance is usually something they value. Ask what it protects.