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Medication and how it works

Canada once pulled a stimulant from the market after four cardiac deaths, then reversed the decision. Three of the four had heart abnormalities from birth and the fourth had been hiking in desert heat without water.

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Is it jinn, or is it illness

Two questions that are not one question, and the cost of answering only the first.

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Worry that will not switch off

A false alarm, a habit of thinking, and a religious accusation that has no text behind it.

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Carrying a loss

Grief comes in waves and not in stages, and the tradition already gave you more room for it than you have been allowed.

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A loss other people cannot see

Grief for a future, with no body, no funeral and no witnesses, and a set of forwarded messages that turn out not to be sound.

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Money worry that will not stop

Worry is a behaviour rather than a character, the loop runs both ways, and the verses about rizq do not say what the posts say they say.

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The feeling that arrives after the scroll

A measuring habit, a standard that keeps rising, and a verse that was never about your face.

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The first year nobody prepared you for

Three different states wearing one name, a body doing what it was always going to do, and a concession the religion already gave you.

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The small things that hold a marriage

Four behaviours that corrode a marriage, one skill that repairs it, and an honest account of how good the evidence for any of this really is.

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When worship stops feeling like anything

Fatrah, the difference between the feeling draining and the practice draining, and how to set a floor.

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Getting assessed and diagnosed

Alongside diagnoses, ask how relatives died. Falls from roofs, crashes, deaths with the safety gear left on the ground: these recur in some family lines and they say something a list of diagnoses cannot.

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When anger turns to harm

An act meant to be heard rather than to end a life can still end one. Whatever you believe about the intent, lethality is a separate question and it always gets asked.

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Breaking the worry loop

When you help someone rethink a frightening thought, go slowly and stay honest. A cheerful line swapped in for a scared one tends to get refused, and fairly so.

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Choosing your response

Before you decide someone is having a go at you, go looking for the boring physical explanation. A good deal of the time it is right there.

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Feelings and focus

You are allowed more than one feeling about the same thing. Relief and grief when someone dies. Love for a job you would walk out of today. Neither one cancels the other.

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Get started

If some of your appointments make it into the calendar and some do not, that is still better than none of them. Half a system is not a failed system.

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Knowing your partner

Under the reactive feeling you show, anger or coldness, there is a softer primary one: fear, hurt, or loneliness. Reach for that and share it.

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Knowing your partner

Tune to what your spouse is feeling under their words today, and name it gently.

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Medication and how it works

Stimulants have been used for this since 1937. That is a long time for any treatment to survive, and very few do.

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Moving your body

Nobody sits down at a piano and plays Mozart the first afternoon. Set the bar at this week rather than at the finished version of yourself.

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Screens and attention

Among teenagers, saying they want to die has become something you say when the bus is late. You can no longer read intent off the phrase, in either direction.

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Screens and attention

Real footage of people dying circulates without any warning, sometimes buried inside a video that starts off looking harmless. Young people rarely raise this themselves, so it is worth asking.

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Screens and attention

When a death is filmed and passed around, some of the people who watch it are not all right afterwards, and a few are put in real danger by it. Ask what has been going round.

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Staying regulated in conflict

Raise the issue as a complaint about a behavior, not an attack on their character. Skip you always and you never.

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Staying regulated in conflict

Name your own move in the dance today: I chase when I am scared, or I go quiet.

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Systems for daily life

Choose one person and tell them you will send the finished thing by a set time. Not a conversation about how it is going, just the file, the photo, or the word done.

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Systems for daily life

A report card with nothing attached to it changes nothing. The ratings have to lead somewhere at home, to something earned or not earned that day.

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The cost of avoiding

Some people are not scared of the day, they are flattened by it. Staying home lifts the weight for an hour, then removes the few good things the day still held.

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The fear underneath anger

Never decide you are safe because the other person is scared. Frightened people are often the ones who go furthest.

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Treatment and medication

Changing how the family understands the child comes before the medication, before the charts, before the meeting at school. It is step one, not a friendly introduction to the real work.

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What ADHD actually is

When you speak about a death by suicide, say died by suicide or completed suicide rather than committed. Committed sets a crime beside the person's name.

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What anger actually is

When somebody says they were not scared, they just do not like being disrespected, take the dislike seriously. We dislike what threatens us, and that is why we avoid it.

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When anger turns to harm

Ask it plainly. Do you think you are a threat to anyone you love? A vague anger problem turns into something workable the moment it has a name attached to it.

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What does Islam actually say about miscarriage?

Miscarriage and pregnancy loss

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Is therapy haram?

Going to therapy